May 22, 2019

Holiday Survival Skills for Empaths

Reflection in a soap bubble.

Can you be as peaceful as this soap bubble during the holiday rush? You can if you can picture it!

Welcome back, dark passengers. In case you haven’t noticed, the holiday season is upon us. I mean, it’s bearing down like a speeding train intent on smashing your last dime that fell on the tracks. Does that sound a little dramatic? Well, if you’re an empath, it’s just about par for the course.

Even if you don’t celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas, chances are pretty good that the people around you – at least a few of them – do. That means you can get sucked into endless holiday baking and office Christmas parties before you can say “fa-la-la-la-la-la-huh?”

As we’ve previously discussed, empaths experience the emotions of those around them. During the season of giving and joy, you’d think that would be a cool thing, right? Wrong. Unfortunately, the holidays bring stress and depression for far more people than will admit it.

Whether you’re an experienced empath or one who’s just figuring out your abilities, the holiday season can be an overwhelming time. Before the holiday train smashes you like a dime, check out a few extra ways to survive the holidays.

Surviving the Holidays By Staying Grounded

Remember, it isn’t all about you

Staying grounded is among the most difficult things for an empath to master. During the holiday season, there’s simply too much going on around you to devote any real time to your own needs.

But you have to.

I mean you really have to.

Do you know what’s less fun that being an empath assaulted by everyone else’s emotional state? Being around a bitchy empath who can’t handle what they’re feeling. Don’t be the buzz-kill moody empath drama queen of Christmas.

I’m sorry…was that too harsh? If you really think about it, it’s true, like it or not. It only takes one overwhelmed, moody empath to bring down the energy level of the whole room. In fact, ungrounded empaths can turn into energy vampires at a moment’s notice if they aren’t careful. (Sorry, no sparkles on these vamps…just fun-killing scowls.)

Look, even if you feel like you can handle being everyone’s emotional dumping ground, you owe it to the people around you to figure out how to filter what you take on.

Grounding Exercises for Empaths

Now, obviously the best way to avoid holiday stress is to stop taking on so much because you don’t know how to say ‘no.’ Once you’re done laughing at the thought of telling your Aunt Ida that you can’t make 12 dozen snowman cookies for her group’s winter festival by tomorrow morning, we can get on with this. Since we all know chances are bad that you’ll escape the holiday season without planning more activities than there are hours in a day, it becomes imperative that you remember to schedule some you time in there.

It’s okay. You can schedule it for 3am while you’re waiting for that last batch of fudge to set…

Here are some basic exercises empaths can try:

  • Learn what it’s like to be YOU. Stop laughing because I’m serious. If you haven’t taken the time to figure out how you feel about something, how on earth will you know when your dealing with someone else’s emotions instead of your own? Carve out five tiny minutes before any potentially stressful event – even if that means parking around the corner and sitting in your car – to close your eyes and just BE. Listen to the sound of your breath. Hear the beating of your heart. Imagine how awesomely funny it would be if a hot pink octopus grabbed that pervy guy in your office just as he was wrangling you towards the mistletoe. Let yourself remember what it feels like to be you in a neutral state. Remember it…feel it…hold onto it.
  • Wrap yourself in a protective bubble. As much as I’d like to see pictures of people showing up to holiday events encased in bubble wrap, I’m talking mentally. Envision a white – or whatever color gives you the most strength – light enveloping your in soothing warmth. Imagine a soap bubble and put yourself inside it. Let your aura hug you like an airtight glove, yet extend away from you as far as it takes to keep the emotions of others at bay. In this case, if you can imagine its unbroken protection, you can make it real.
  • Wear a protective talisman. This is different for everyone. It could be a sign of your faith, like a cross. It could be a symbol of pure vibrational energy, like a quartz crystal. Actually, for empaths, it can be any tangible object you can put on your body that will help you remember that you don’t have to soak up the emotions of others because your aura’s intact. Even if you don’t have a lot of faith in your aura, this can still work for you. Wear a pendant or a ring with a special soothing significance attached. Throughout a stressful event, fiddle with it when you find yourself in a particularly overly emotional state. Every time your fingers graze it, remember that you have the power to block out other people’s crap; remember that you are still the master of your own mind.

Finding Your Empathic Balance

I often use a combination of all those exercises to balance and ground myself before holiday festivities, but I realize they won’t work for everyone. Now is a good time to start playing around with what works for you. Some people can skip all the aura bubble stuff just by praying or meditating – or even getting in a good nap – before stressful events.

Don’t be scared to go with what works for you. Sometimes, I find that cooking relieves my stress…and the residual affects of being an empath. For other people, it might take a walk through nature, or even talking to tree. Like I said…just go with it.

But there’s one thing that without fail always helps me find my center, to ground, to balance…Loudly singing angry rock music – badly -at the top of my lungs while in the car.

Yes, I know you’re all staring at me while I’m driving down the highway and I don’t care. At least I’ll be in a good mood when I get where I’m going…Will you?


“Let your dark passenger come out to play…Be your own nemesis!”

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Jen Whitten is a paranormal researcher and writer, specializing in psychic development, Empaths, modern day vampirism and dealing with entities. She regularly discusses the paranormal realm, as well as the dark inner workings of the mind.


  1. Cherrie says:

    We must be on the same wavelentgh…I was just thinking about an article about clearing/cleansing SELF.

    I also fully embrace good old fashioned AVOIDANCE when possible. From …well…starting two weeks ago :-) ….I begin to get my groceries at 7 a.m. Sunday mornings AND wear my ipod with relaxing meditative ambient music. So if I DO see someone intent on dumping on me, I have one more layer. Nothing says “I can’t hear you” like a headset…even if you don’t turn it on.

    I say no…a lot. I just politely say I’m really not a group or party person but would love to get together with them for a cup of coffee one-on-one.

    And I really don’t do the holiday thing. It always seems to shock people when I hear the “so…are you all ready for Christmas?” oft asked question from every checker and person you meet and I say…yeah…cuz I don’t do anything.

    Sadly, I can easily be the “bitchy empath”. It’s a process. Goddess isn’t finished with me yet.

    • Jen Whitten says:

      I think we can all be a victim of Bitchy Empath Syndrome (BES) at some point or another.

      Never thought about wearing headphones to the store though. Might have to start trying that so random strangers will stop asking me for recipes in the aisles.

  2. Cherrie Ward via Facebook says:

    LOVE IT! Just call me “bitchy empath”. I think the sparkles might fit.

  3. Cherrie says:

    Ya know where I first saw that trick? On the tv show MEDIUM…she was walking through a hospital. It is a great scene! Wish I could find it on YouTube…there are spirits swirling all around her and she has this head banging rock music playing…it’s so how I feel…she’s trying to do the “la la la, can’t hear you” thing.

    Yeah…the grocery store thing. It’s a killer. “Do you like that brand of carrots?”….”um…yeah”….”Oh…my husband can’t eat carrots anymore since he had his face blown off in a freak accident, and lost his job…and we don’t know how we are going to pay rent next month and…..*uncontrolled sobbing begins*” Then I have to go home. And take a shower. and Lie down. :-)

    • Jen Whitten says:

      I HATE going to the store because of people and their need to talk to me. Sometimes, I’m able to pull off the his psychic invisibility thing where I don’t even have trouble weaving through a big crowd, but those days are few and far between…