May 22, 2019

Psychic Stress Relief

Fight Club

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It’s that time again, dark passengers. As promised, tonight we continue our discussion of psychics and stress from last week. In particular, let’s talk about some ways for those with psychic abilities or empathic gifts to relieve stress.

But frankly, even people who don’t think they possess psychic gifts can benefit as well…

If you’re one of my Facebook friends, you already know that I like Fight Club – both the book and the movie – way too much. Once you get past the violence, the running theme of the disconnected male and the utter lunacy of burning yourself with lye while making soap, there are actually some important messages in there. In particular, I find the following inspiring:

“No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.”

In fact, that’s become my personal motto of sorts.

Think about it. Really take that in for a moment. How much of the stress in your life is a direct result of petty crap? I know…I know. At the time, it can all seem the end of the world, but let’s use a little perspective here.

Will what’s happening matter in 6 months? A year? Five years? If your stress trigger isn’t going to matter much over the course of your life, why are you stressed out?

Here’s an even better question: Does the stress trigger even involve you? Or are you getting sucked into someone else’s drama? (I’ll give all the Empaths reading this a moment to realize I’m talking to them right now…)

Stress Relief for Empaths

I won’t lie…I used to be the WORST about this one, probably because I didn’t know I was an Empath. Does this sound familiar to you: A close friend confides in you about a problem they’re having with another person and suddenly you can’t stand the thought of having anything to do with the other person. Or maybe someone close to you is going through a rough time in their life and it feels like you’ve been stabbed in the heart.

Having empathy for a person who’s in pain is one thing, but letting their emotions become your emotions, driving your stress response, well, that’s something very different. And if you live with another Empath, ugh, good luck. If you want to get out of the Empath stress cycle, here’s a simple (sort of) solution:

Get in touch with your emotions. I know, easier said than done, but if you want to understand what’s going on around you, you must look within yourself. Knowing how certain situations affect you will help you learn the difference between your emotions and when you’re experiencing someone else’s emotions. Strengthening your aura and working on your psychic shielding abilities can also help.

Stress Relief for Sensitives and Intuitives

Ahem, I’m guilty of this one, too. Let me give you a specific example of how this aspect of my psychic gifts used to stress me out. If there’s a spirit/ghost/paranormal presence/whatever you want to call it around me, I’m going to know it’s there. Sometimes I’ll see it – which is beyond freaky the first few times when you’ve been taught that ghosts don’t exist. Other times I’ll hear it’s movement.

But normally, I just know it’s there and I know where in the room it’s chillin’. I have to say, not only is it distracting to constantly see movement behind someone you’re talking to, but it’s annoying when you’re the only person in the area who is sensitive to paranormal activity and energy. It’s like trying to explain to the person who’s frantically searching for their glasses that they’re already wearing them because they can’t see them for whatever reason. Frustrating.

If I’m 100% honest, this used to be a massive area of stress for me. Why? Because I devoted a lot of energy to pretending I was crazy or imagining things. Turns out, it’s neither of those. If you’re a Sensitive or Intuitive and you’re in this boat, this might help:

Stop tiptoeing around your psychic abilities. You don’t want to be psychic? Awesome. I don’t either. Since we don’t get to choose, embrace your psychic gifts and confront them when they cause issues. For example, I was so annoyed this past weekend with all the movement going on behind my husband while we were talking that I demanded a full week without any spirits or presences in my home. As of Day 2, I’m basically getting it. I felt a brief presence while I was working yesterday, but it left as soon as it arrived.

Caution: Asking spirits to leave only works if A) you mean it and B) you’re dealing with neutral or friendly entities. Demonic and/or malevolent energy doesn’t normally comply with your wishes. In fact, it normally just pisses it off. Unfortunately, it usually takes a cleansing, smudging, blessing, etc to get negative spirits out of your house.

Bottom line, y’all: You get to choose what’s going to affect you and how you’ll react to things. And if it’s something small, let it truly slide. Besides, the more energy you devote to a small issue, the larger it will become.

Your turn. What do you do to head off stress at the pass? Have you noticed a relationship between your psychic gifts and your stress responses?


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Jen Whitten is a paranormal researcher and writer, specializing in psychic development, Empaths, modern day vampirism and dealing with entities. She regularly discusses the paranormal realm, as well as the dark inner workings of the mind.


  1. Tara says:

    My husband and I are both pretty empathic towards others–it can definitely add to stressful situations. Great advice on dealing with that situation!

  2. Jen Whitten says:

    Same here. When both of us are in a mood, it’s often best for us to retreat to separate sides of the house until at least one of us can get a grip and block the other out.

    I just hope the advice helps. :)
    .-= Jen Whitten´s last blog ..Alliance – Chapter 21 =-.

  3. Apryl says:

    So, Jay has found that he is an Empath too?

  4. Jen Whitten says:

    Yeah. I realized it before he did though. At first I thought he might just be in tuned to me, but once he started picking up on everyone else…yeah. Granted, he’s a different kind of Empath than I am.
    .-= Jen Whitten´s last blog ..Top 10 Places to Find Ghosts =-.