October 21, 2017

A World Without Mirrors

Old make-up mirror.

Does what you see in the mirror change who you are?

Welcome back, dark passengers. Today, we’re going to take a break from ghosts and the evil death plots of the Mayan calendar. In fact, we’re going to take a break from nearly everything we talk about on here.

As you can imagine, I’ve had a lot of time to mull things over during my absence from blogging over the last few months. For those who don’t know, my refrigerator flooded my house at the end of April and then my contractor “friend” decided to tear up the house even more and run off with the repair money. Some friend. While the first contractor was a total jackass, he did get my thinking started on mirrors.

Actually, he said that my husband was delusional for thinking I look better without makeup…

After I was done rolling my eyes at his shallowness, I realized that, to a degree, I agreed with him. How many times do I waste time putting on makeup just because I know I’m going somewhere that people will have cameras? How many times have I told my husband he’s a sweet liar for saying I look good when I know I don’t?

On both counts, too many.

Are Mirrors Responsible for Moods?

Rationally, I know that mirrors are not what’s wrong with society. People are, and have always been, the the problem.

What I’m wondering is how much the knowledge of our appearance colors the way we face the world. Think about it. When you’re having a bad hair day or Mount Vesuvius forms on your forehead, do you find yourself annoyed all day? Do you shrink away from social interactions you normally wouldn’t?

Now, consider this: If you didn’t have a mirror, would you realize your look isn’t flawless? Probably not.

Do Mirrors Rule our Behavior?

Do you find yourself acting different when you know you look your best than other times? I do. For whatever reason, I have more confidence that others won’t judge me by appearance over what’s inside. Come to think of it, that’s probably stupid. I’m concerned the world will judge me because I’m not gorgeous when I could instead be concerned with being judged as just a pretty face.

But there’s a dark side to beauty. Confidence can become arrogance if we let it. Some people allow their looks to lead to a sense of entitlement. Why should I work hard at anything when I’m a knockout? Worse still is the attitude of “Those unattractive people couldn’t possibly be worth the effort of friendship or a job because they clearly have nothing to offer me.”

In a word: Shallow.

Each of us have personality traits and talents that become overshadowed in the eyes of others by how we look on the outside. By judging others based on appearance – be it that they’re too pretty or not pretty enough – I think we all miss out on friendships and relationships of value.

What if Mirrors Didn’t Exist?

We’ll always know how other people look and what physical attributes we appreciate in them. If mirrors didn’t exist, we wouldn’t be able to place ourselves into the attractiveness pecking order. Sure, others could tell you what they think of your appearance, but taste is subjective, so you’d probably get a variety of answers.

How might the inability to judge your own appearance change the way you behave and think about yourself? Without a mirror around to make you feel fat or unattractive, you’d have to base your attitude more on who you are than how you look. Even though other people could still see you, they would treat you differently as well because of your new personality.

I know that checking ourselves out in the mirror is too much of a habit to ever live in a world without mirrors, but that doesn’t mean we can’t act as though there are no mirrors. We can exude total confidence in ourselves no matter how bad we think we look. We can form our opinions of others based on what they have to say, not how they look.

But, you’ll still have to take time out of all this positive new behavior to clean the mirrors…

Talk to me. Do you notice a difference in your attitude towards yourself or others based on appearance? How does the thought of a world without mirrors make you feel?

Jen

“Let your dark passenger come out to play…Be your own nemesis!”

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Jen Whitten is a paranormal researcher and writer, specializing in psychic development, Empaths, modern day vampirism and dealing with entities. She regularly discusses the paranormal realm, as well as the dark inner workings of the mind.